Questions to Ask Yourself

If you are struggling with the question of whether or not to place your child for adoption, the following are a few questions to ask yourself to determine whether or not you are ready to raise a child. Please call the Helpline toll-free at 1-800-672-2296 to talk with someone about adoption.

As a pregnant teen, you might be wrestling with these questions. Please call us to talk through your concerns and uncertainties.

Questions to Ask:

  • Am I able to give a child what he/she demands and needs?
  • Would I have to count on my parents to help me out?
  • Can I raise a child and meet my own needs? To finish school? To start a career?
  • Am I really ready to become a good parent on my own?
  • What do I want to achieve in life and to experience out of life?
  • Could I handle a child and a job and/or school at the same time?
  • Am I ready to give up the freedom to do whatever I want whenever I want?
  • An example of something I would have to give up by having my child with me would be…
  • Am I willing to cut back on having fun and staying home while my friends go out?
  • Would I miss my free time and privacy?
  • Can I afford to support a child? How will I pay for rent, clothing, food, diapers, and other living expenses?
  • Do I want to raise a child in the neighborhood that I live in now? Where do I plan to live?
  • Do I want my child to be like me?
  • Am I expecting my child to make my life happy and to love me?
  • When I am around small children for a while, what do I think or feel about having a two-year-old around ALL the time?
  • How would I treat a child if I lost my temper or became angry?
  • How would I discipline a toddler?
  • How would I take care of my child’s health and safety?
  • Do I enjoy teaching others?

Last updated: 09/2017